Love means you don’t have to say you’re sorry? ~~~
This is a quote from the famous movie “Love Story” in early 70s, when the heroine was dying from cancer, her lover did everything for her and accepted all the pain and suffering without any complaint, because their love was so great that an apology just seemed unnecessary.
But the premise for the situation is that you have to love enough, and the love is mutually felt by both parties. If one side of the party is selfish and egocentric, then I pretty much doubt that the dictum would be applicable.
People praise the unconditional love¸ and it is the utmost happiness when one comes across one’s true love, and all the giving and sacrifices become sweet and worthwhile. But what is the essence of true love? Does it mean that the pain is not felt when making sacrifices? or to love without prior consideration of personal gain or interest?
If so, then one may asks, how do you differentiate unconditional love from blind love? If your love only contributes to the making of a selfish person, then what are the purpose and meaning of your sacrifice? On the other hand, if you are crazy in extending yourself to the uninterested, the idea of unconditional love is only a wishful thinking.
People in love tend to idealize their love object, and enjoy taking self-less actions to prove to themselves that they do possess good virtues and ability to love. However, one has to be careful not to interfere in anyone’s life, as this may jeopardize the freedom of love. We can guide them, love them, encourage them, but not interfere.
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