Being in love is an abstract notion, people need to know they're in love through tangible forms, like words, presents, huggings and kissings of the loved ones, and through these behaviors, we apprehend that we are in the state of being loved. Unfortunatly, the number of people who are able to act like these is quite small, and this is why many of us are not sure whether we're really loved by the other.
One Obstacle in maintaining people's relationship is when one of the party tries to assert his(her) individuality and to be left alone, while the other seeks for intimacy. Especially when the latter feels that he(she) is giving too much in a relationship and getting too little.
Any successful relationship is a delicate balance between the needs and desires of each person as an individual ego and their desire to achieve meaning through a relationship.
When timing is not right, the equilibrium is very delicate and easily upset. At this time, both party in the relationship define what he(she) wants from each other. It is sometimes necessary to be quite explicit about what he(she) want, because whatever is left unsaid may very well be the main source of conflict between them.
When people fail to cummunicate well in a relationship, we often see people break up without a clear understanding of why this has happened.
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